In America a lot of money’s been made from ‘reality’ sites, the defining characteristic seems to be that the less real the scenario, the more popular the product. Reality’s a label which makes outlandish fantasies more exciting – “Supermodels who dig fat gamers”, is the kind of website we want to believe in.
(Speaking of supermodels, last week in London I was at a bar which was hosting a model’s birthday party. The models had reserved every flat surface, and in order to find a place to sit I had to introduce myself and charm my way into one of their reserved, but empty, booths. While I was charming, one of my friends was being hit on by a perfectly nice, perfectly pretty woman who wasn’t part of the birthday party and thus was not a supermodel. Once we’d staked out our corner (I sprayed the area with musk in order to make sure all the other cats knew it was our space) we became increasingly friendly with the models who kept stopping by on their way to buy drinks.
My hit-on friend speaks, “I don’t know what to do. If I leave with this chick who’s digging my thing right now, I might miss out on one of the model later. What do you think?” to which my other friend responded “So you’re trying to decide if you should take the chick in front of you, or risk it all for the mystery chick which you might not get? What’s your call? The box in front of you or the mystery box? Deal or no-deal?” I laughed so hard whiskey came out of my nose. Thanks to a crappy British game-show (now on in the US too) we can all now ‘Deal or no deal?’ friends whenever they’re in danger of making a sexual compromise they might regret.)
In London I was turned on to RealPunting.com, a real ‘reality’ site. So you can make an appointment to meet any of the women you see there, who are all prostitutes.
The politically correct take on porn philosophy says there’s a difference between prostitution and pornography (If you want to offend a porn-performer refer to them as a prostitute and cover your nose.) The argument’s that porn-performers get to choose who they work with, which implies they aren’t being ‘bought and sold’ as prostitutes are.
In truth you can have sex with 95% of performers as long as you have a clean STD test from AIM, a camera and enough money to cover their rate. Complicating things further, a lot of pornsters hook on the side (there used to be an LA based agency called Nici’s Girls that specialized in introducing punters to performers), and many ‘agents’ behave like pimps. I’m sure there are prostitutes who are as picky about their clients as well-known adult performers are about their partners. As for the celebrities who’ll fly to Dubai to ’spend time with’ an oil-sheik for $50k a week – isn’t that escorting at a very high level?
In the face of a porn-site like RealPunting.com is it ridiculous to try and separate the two professions? If, to paraphrase Tony Comstock, “Things that are legal shouldn’t become illegal simply because you’re filming them”, should things become more legitimate because there’s a camera in the room?
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In a freaky coincidence I posted along a similar idea earlier this week
http://www.hotcouple.co.uk/2006/05/29/prostitutes-and-porn-stars/
A prostitute has sex for money. It’s that simple. You’re a whore whether you’re a housewife paying for the grocery money, a streetwalker on her 4th trick of the night, an “entertainer” blowing a saudi prince for 50k or a “porn star” humping 50 guys. Call a spade a spade. The streetwalker shows more integrity because she isn’t trying to hide what she’s doing behind a fancy name.
It’s the same way with “amateur” porn. Dudes, a model is amateur only if she isn’t getting paid. Taking that first dollar or bag of crack makes you a pro. Live with it.
Things like this are the reason I stick to european porn given a choice. The girls are actually attractive, they know what they’re doing, and they don’t expect to be given an oscar for that gang bang they filmed last week.
Definitely a question I’ve asked before. In fact, it doesn’t matter whether it’s that common for prostitutes to be picky about their customers or not. Because you still have to consider the hypothetical: If any girl is being paid for sex but is choosing her partners, then is it prostitution? Legally, yes. Put a camera in front of it, then no. In practice, a lot of porn stars and a lot of prostitutes do really enjoy having sex with a lot of people so it might as well be considered to be choice. In fact, I know of more than a few world travelling situations where a travelling guy gets solicited by a prostitute and replies “I’m not going to pay you, but you can have sex with me for free” and the girl has accepted. Prostitutes get attracted to and want to shag someone just like anyone else, and the more entrepreneurial ones might just check and see if he’s willing to pay before doing it for free.
(Obviously, it’s unquestionably wrong when girls are forced into either pornography or prostitution, but most of that wrongness is just because it’s wrong to force anyone to have sex regardless of whether or not there are cameras and money involved.)
Will – If a prostitute has sex with a potential client for free she’s either not a prostitute or she’s planning to steal your wallet/have you killed. Most women (prostitutes included) can afford to be pickier than hitting on punters.
Aurelius – I’m with you. I’d add that I see nothing wrong with prostitution conceptually so personally wouldn’t see applying that definition to porn-players as demeaning.
What the? Just to clarify any confusion (my own included), those two Will’s are different people (I’m the first one)…
I wouldn’t miss a chance at linky goodness and not enter a website when commenting for a start